Mourning :: Grief :: Goodbye

This is not a morbid post, I'd rather hope to encourage someone out there who has expereinced a loss of some sort, is in mourning, has no idea how to handle grief or needs to say goodbye.

Few events can affect your life as powerfully as the death of a loved one. Yet many people are uneasy speaking about death and dealing with the emotions that accompany it. The conventional wisdom tells survivors to “keep busy; don’t dwell on your loss; just snap out of it.” You may find yourself believing that. I did and that’s exactly how I messed my brain and body up!

Yes, the conventional wisdom is wrong!

Only by letting yourself experience grief can you move beyond it. Beyond – not to your old way of being or, to what was once “normal”; nor to denial of your hurt; neither to resentment and bitterness. But, beyond to fully integrating loss into your life, to richer understanding, renewed purpose, deeper spirituality and rebirth.

Grieving is painful and demanding. So allow yourself time because that which follows is healing, profound healing, and transforming healing. Ultimately that’s how you get stronger to bear the burden.